Ten Things I Find Extremely Sexy On Men – The Non Physical Version

I’m sure by now you’ve seen this Craigslist personal ad.

It got me to thinking about what it is I want in a man. Now, I can never seem to want a particular man for long, but in general the following (in no particular order) seem to consistently tickle my fancy.

Note that I’m leaving physical attributes out of this because I tend to me attracted to a range of physical types and also looks only really go so far as in the case of Mr. Hotstuff. But if you’re dying to know what gets me going physically then refer to this by no means exhaustive list.

1. Sense of humor – A must. I don’t trust those who take themselves or life too seriously. And I love to laugh. Laughing is right up there with fucking and eating for me and can be a potent aphrodisiac.

2. A sense of adventure – I live in fear of becoming stuck in my own rut. I’m not about to become stuck in someone else’s. Any potential partner of mine must be willing to step out of his comfort zone and try new things, both sexually and otherwise.

3. An inclination toward the geeky – Is a huge plus. I’m rarely more turned on than after I’ve had an extensive conversation with a cute guy about comics and geek culture icons. Can you discuss the origins of the X-Men at length? Have an opinion on Wolverine getting his memories back? Excited for the movie version of Alan Moore’s Watchmen? Think Ed Norton made a better Hulk than Eric Bana? Own every single issue of Exterminators? Call me. We can watch Boondock Saints and play video games.
4. Self confidence – Almost to the point of being cocky but still just toeing the line. Confidence makes my panties wet. There are few things more annoying that a man (or any person for that matter) who isn’t sure of himself/can’t think for himself.

5. The ability to listen –

And I mean really listen, not just hearing or pretending to listen. Few people know what it really means to be fully present to another human being and what a tremendously loving gift that can be. Sadly, most people are way more interested in talking than listening.

6. Non-judgment - Nothing turns me off faster than a critical, judgmental person, male or female. Vive y deja vivir!

7. Intelligence – This includes being generally well read, quick-witted and a good conversationalist. Basically, if you say “huh” every time I use a word that’s contains more than three syllables, I’m going to start to reassess things.

8. Self awareness and substance –

I’ve concluded that consistency is a lot to ask from a human being these days. However, being aware is not. Know thyself. I don’t want to have to tell you who you are. You tell me.

9.  A dirty mind – Or at least the willingness to step into mine.

10. Passion