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Link Lovin’

Stacey Lawson on Huffington Post - Love The One You’re With - Profound because way too many people refuse to see their lovers for who they are.

US News - Can You Afford a Baby? - I don’t know whether this is resourceful or ridiculous.

NY Times - Media Charged With Sexism in Clinton Coverage - Of COURSE the media coverage was sexist.

LUSTY LADY - Video Interview about Erotica and Dirty Girls - RKB is so frickin’ cute.

Jezebel - An Open Letter to Those Awaiting the Rapture - I can laugh about this now but when I was younger, my grandma had me sacred shitless with stories of the Rapture. Who knows? She might have the last laugh after all…in an email.

NY Times - What Women Want (Maybe) - We like what we like. No need for labels. Still, an interesting read.

Heart Full of Black - HNT Josie’s Room - Oh! The purple panties!

Wired - Tech Helps Soldiers with Invisible Wounds of War - As if we needed another reason to bring the troops home.

Sugasm 135

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #136? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
The Angel and the Devil
“Upon looking at my creamy white and feeling my soft lips you would think I am an angel.”

How To Approach A Dominant Woman
“Wrong way: Perhaps you know me from my blog….”

Intimate
“Lying back so the full aura from the lamp lights the area in question, I spread my legs and let him see.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
How does one trust?

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
The busiest day so far
I can hardly describe the addiction
Insane Bitch
Lindsay Lohan: Total L.U.G.
Stripper with benefits, part 2
What Counts As Sex? –NEW POLL!!!

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Amber Rayne In Predicament Bondage On Sex And Submission
Catalina loves Interviews
Check out Mz. Berlin’s Blog
Delight
Eyes More Important Than Body In Attraction
New LELO Vibrators
Sex Toys Are Fun!
So Very Shallow

Sex Advice
Can being overweight lead to lack of orgasm?

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Fetish Model Satine Phoenix is a *VERY* Pretty Pony Girl
Field Of Dreams
Free Bubble butt webcam clip on CamWithHer
Half-Nekkid in Alaska
My second SUMMER of Love
The one with the hard body
Pornsaint Zahra Divine
A Pussy Corset Piercing - A Painful Form of Forced Chastity
Rose Petals -HNT
Video: Good Morning Blowjob

Sex & Politics
Fuck the Schoolboard, Too
Sex, Politics and Videotape: Young People Fucking and Canadian Censorship

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Bed, breakfast and more tasty cock
Grils and Playtoys
Period Piece
Skinny Dipping
Spooning Leads To Forking
When Life Gets in the Way

Sex Work
Getting spanked in the office
Reality Check: Superstar Clients
What About The Johns? (An Audio Plea)

Sex Humor
What the heck is happenin’ to my genitals?

BDSM & Fetish
Cinderella’s Big Score - A Fairy Tale
Fun with Shoes and Bondage
Kinky Email from Mr. Kink
Mmmmm, Pantyhose….
Muffles
Political Maneuvers
Princess in wonderland.
r’s naughty thoughts on wheelchair bondage, strap-on sex, and enemas
Setting the stage…
Wet Panties

Feeling the Love

I was at Loving Day 2008 and it was nothing short of awesome.

Besides there being free food, free booze, free ice cream and awesome music, there were plenty of diverse and beautiful people in the house.

Loving Day is an annual celebration commemorating the 1967 Supreme Court case Loving vs. Virginia that made interracial marriage legal in the US.

I, for one, could not even imagine not being allowed to get my swirl on.

Unthinkable.

Despite the tremendous heat, everyone was in good spirits and you could definitely feel the love in the air. I enjoyed seeing all the people; singles, interracial couples, bi-racial children. And the tunes were hot! People were dancing up a storm ad having a really great time. I learned some new things and met some cool people.

Go here to find out more info and get involved in Loving Day.

Period Piece

Warning: Try not discuss this topic when you’re in a crowded restaurant and people are eating in close proximity (also, if you’re squeamish about blood or otherwise easily grossed out, read no further).

The purpose of this post is twofold. One, to advocate for period sex, and two, to celebrate the thunderstorm of an ending to a dry spell that has lasted over half a year.

So I’m at brunch with Ms. Funky Brown and I start to tell her about the momentous occasion.

I met him at a party about a month ago and we hit it off instantly. Quick witted and quick tongued, his constant witty banter had me at hello.

Fast forward through weeks of long phonecalls and missed connections and finally we had a solid sex date.

I was taking my mommy to the movies and then I was to call him when I got home.

In the middle of the movie, my period came. Frustrated, I texted him. Let’s call him Chuck. “Change in plans”, I typed. “I have a visitor”.

Chuck’s reply?

“Why would that change anything? Call me when you get home”.

Woo hoo! A red sea diver! I’d hit the jackpot.

Hopes officially not dashed, I continued to watch the film.

I began to cramp and experience the variety of uncomfortable sensations that can go along with menstruation. By the end of the film I was in a good amount of pain and feeling decidedly un-sexy.

I called Chuck and told him the prospects for sex were again looking dim. “I told you, I’m not afraid of your Auntie,” he said sweetly. But I wasn’t feeling well and I told him as such. He said OK and asked if I just wanted company and maybe a massage. I really wasn’t feeling up for company but I’d already canceled on him once so I agreed.

He got to my apartment and used my shower. Then he snuggled up to me in the bed and we talked for a little while before he instructed me to spread a towel on the bed, turn off the light and remove my dress. What followed was the absolute best massage I’d ever received.

He wasn’t stingy. He expertly rubbed me for a good hour, maybe more. And it wasn’t a sexual, let-me-cop-free-feels kind of massage. It was easily on par with the kind of massage you’d pay a professional for (I told him he missed his calling and should have business cards printed immediately).

I felt so much better. My cramps had gone (plus he brought me some ibuprofen) and needless to say I’d begin to feel quite amorous after having my flesh kneaded so well.

And then without warning, Chuck went down on me.

I was using a tampon but still my first instinct was to pull away. He steadied me with his hands and stayed down there for what seemed like forever.

And I came.

I came in the hardest, meanest way.

Then Chuck flipped me over (and get this, pulled my tampon out himself) and we had the best sex I’ve had in God only knows how long. Phenomenal.

See. You can have positive experiences with menstrual sex.

Firstly, you need a special kind of partner for red day lovin’. This person must be open minded, not easily grossed out, and attentive. It’s got to be someone your comfortable with and someone who knows how to make you comfortable.

The best red sea divers understand that sex is primarily a mind thing and only secondarily physical.

Speaking of the physical, yes, the mechanics of period sex can be challenging, but there are also benefits.

Extra lubrication is the primary of these. I’m a big fan of the slip and slide (just think of it as red Babelube).

It can be easier to achieve orgasms (and BIG ones at that). And incidentally those orgasms can relieve cramping.

Plus, it can be a really sexy and self-esteem boosting experience to get so close with someone and actually be comfortable with your body during what is generally seen as an uncomfortable time.

Haven’t sold you?

Well then head on over to Ms. Funky Brown for the con side of the period debate.