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Sugasm #148

Image by Rachel Kramer Bussel via Flickr

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #149? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
People I could hang out with
“But it wasn’t just a story, it was a damn sexy story.”

Red, Hot Ass
“I grunted, but held still.”

Smart Girls Make Better Lovers
“Chicks with brains can make you scream.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Sex Blogging and Writing for the Drawer

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Sex History
Right To Vibe

Erotic Writing and Experiences
A is for
Adult Party Games - Round One
Adventures in Digital
Balcony fun
The Dinner Party: Part I
Female Waxing
Frisson
Her Glorious Cunt
Lilly and the Construction Crew
Not So Complicated
Sex in Public on Road Trip Day 9
So Wrong….
The Waiting is the Hottest Part. Confession #140

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
Every Kind of Sex Available: Exploring The Limits of CyberSex
NYC Sex Bloggers 2009 Calendar

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Impertinent Question: What’s the Kinkiest Thing You’ve Ever Done?
Study HNT

Sex Work
Sex Work and Compassion: Self Hating Client
The Sockjob Goddess Returneth…

Sex Advice
Libido in Older Women
Pregnancy BDSM
Try the Pelvic Slide Position for Maximum Clitoral Stimulation

BDSM & Fetish
A domestic fantasy
A man becomes a fucking machine
Not your usual gangbang.
Playing the scene
Sex Camp 2008: Fiiiiyuuuurrrr!!!

Sex Humor
Fantasy Friday: Ahoy, Matey!

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Autobiography of a Masturbator: Porn O’Graphicus, Part 4
Marriage Failure a Natural Success
Never submit to escort screening
Sex Shop Jitters
Ten Things I Find Extremely Sexy On Men - The Non-Physical Version
What I read at Dirty Words night
Why do I do This?

Channeling Jessica Rabbit

The day before I got invited to pose for this calendar, I weighed in at 190 pounds.

I wasn’t expecting to see much less than that. I had been flirting with the 200 pound mark for some time now, but at 190, those flirtations just got that much more heated.

Posing scantily clad for a calendar? I admit there was a time when such a prospect would scare the shit out of me.

But not now.

As women, it seems we’re destined to struggle with our bodies in one way or another. We seem to always want to change ourselves. While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be fitter and healthier, I find that such changes are better and longer lasting when you come from a place of self love rather than self loathing.

I eventually just gave up the idea that there was something wrong with me. I gave myself permission to roll a little here or sag a little there.

Because sexy is not at all about what number the scale registers. It’s about how you work what you’ve got.

That being said, I always felt a weird affinity with Jessica Rabbit. I dressed up as her for senior pride back in high school. I use her as my avatar when I don’t want to use my picture. It only seemed right that I interpret her in this calendar project.

I saw Jessica and I as having a lot in common. Besides the tendency to pop out of our dresses, we were both misjudged because of how we looked.

In the film Jessica, because of the way she was built and because she was just so damned sexy was immediately thought to be a shrewish and unfaithful wife. In reality she wasn’t and went to great lengths to protect her rabbit husband. We all remember her famous quip, “I’m not bad I’m just drawn that way”, but there was another part in the movie where she confesses to Valiant, “you have no idea how hard it is being a woman looking the way I do.”

I know how you feel, sister.

Because I was similarly “stacked”, I had a hell of a time during my school days. Wearing a C cup by the time I was twelve and still growing fast, I was constantly harassed by classmates, male and female alike.

To the guys I was an object, a walking pair of breasts. To the girls I was a slut, plain and simple (which really was laughable because they were all fucking way before I was).

Any big breasted woman can tell you, we get a bad rap for no other reason than we were given a little extra.

What was awesome about Jessica Rabbit was that instead of trying to hide it (as if she could hide those things even if she tried) she just owned it, braving all the looks and snide comments. She just continued to be who she was.

I learned this lesson the hard way myself after spending five grand on a breast reduction operation only to have them grow back within a few years. My girls were sending me a message. “We’re here to stay”, they seemed to be telling me, and finally, I’m at peace with that. I want to celebrate that.

I know it’s a little loony because she’s a cartoon, but Jessica Rabbit is one of my heroes and I plan to do right by her in this calendar.

Of course you’ll have to buy one in order  to see my tribute…

HNT - Hand In Glove

This is actually a sneak peek. These gloves will make an appearance in a very special upcoming calendar. You’ll have to get one in order to see the entire outfit (which won’t be much more than this).

HHNT everyone!

Sugasm #147

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #148? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Amazing
““You’re lucky I’m not being mean right now.””

Cum Squirt With Me. Confession #131
“Not much research has been done on the female orgasm in general, much less this seemingly new erotic marvel.”

Jealousy, Pornography and the Boundaries of Blogging
“I search to be a sexually free, independent and satisfied woman without the stigma of slut yet with the positive implications of slut.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Blue Fantasy, Red Silk Rope

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
DVD Review: “Hostel Lupus” (Lupus Pictures)
Lady Sascha Reviews the Light-Of-Love T
Sarge Ties Up Charlotte Vale On Hogtied
VibeReview Fantasy: Decadent Indulgence

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
The Enigmatic Angel Finds Out Just HOW Kinky She IS
Fetish Fridays: Interview With A Sissy
How Grey Does Your Garden Grow?
Rock Me Sexy Jesus
We don’t plan to stop
Where Do I Fit In The Picture
Why I hire escorts
Why, Oh Why Do I Like Watching My Wife Get Fucked
You Are Beautiful Tonight

Sex & Humor
Overheard In BDSM

BDSM & Fetish
Bonds of Love
Brutal Bastinado And Intense Sadistic BDSM
Don’t Slam The Door
Exceeding My Expectations
Meeting with BS 4
Mistress or Lusty Bitch?
Public Displays of Discipline
Renewing and Reviewing: Rule 5
Sarge Says: The Vale That Is Thin Enough For Me
Sex and Submission Round 2 Report: Mz Berlin, Mark Davis, And Bondage
She works hard for a living…

Sex Work
Satine Phoenix Is A Sinner? Repent Repent Repent!

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Clips and Clamps
Feather Fan HNT
Half-Nekkid Thursday: Sunny Side Up

Sex Advice
Bend over boyfriend how to make him want anal sex
How To Put On A Condom In The Dark
Man-Handled: What Makes the Perfect Blowjob?

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Being Alone
Catalina loves Fucking Mr. F (In My Mind At Least)
Chasseur
Fuck My Mouth
Horny
The Long Kiss Goodnight
Making out in the air part1
One
What She Forgot - Another Friday Night Bedtime Story
While it rains outside…

365 Days of Sexy

I’m sure you’ve heard by now but if you haven’t, let me put you on.

There’s a calendar a comin’. Twelve of The Big Apple’s most sexy and brilliant sex writers have come together to bare some skin for your viewing pleasure.

This project started in the mind of one particular urban gyspy (who happens to sport some of the most magnificent cleavage on the net) as a what if. Deciding firmly to turn that what of into a definite, she reached out to eleven other women and the calendar came together in a matter of weeks.

Normally, with a project of this scale, the process from conception to finish takes easily a few months.

Synergy.

I’m always happy to see it in action.

There are any reasons to buy one but, to start, 12 very good reasons are:

Audacia Ray

Me

Diva

Elizabeth Wood

Jamye Waxman

Lux Alptraum

Mariella

Rachel Kramer Bussel

Riese

Sinclair Sexsmith

Tess Danesi

Twanna A Hines

All proceeds from the sale of these calendars go to benefit Sex Work Awareness.

To keep up with the antics of these calendar girls and to get your copy, check out the official blog of the calendar project.

Link Lovin’

(this week’s Absolute Favorite HNT pic is brought to you by Jobthingy)

Gloria’s Oversexed Mind - Discomgoogolated Sex Addicts - There are many who poo poo the term sex addict.  I, for one, have never thought to dissect the phrase from such a scientific standpoint. An interesting and entertaining read.

Feministe - Requiring Gardasil for U.S. Immigrants - Two words. Slippery slope.

Junkbuzzed - Things To Do When Your Girlfriend Or Significant Other Has A Broken Judy - I get wet reading this blog.

Feministing - Burning Man 2008: The American Dream - Never been to burning man. I’ve always been intrigued by it but know myself well enough to know that roughing it in the dessert doesn’t rank too high on my list. I especially liked the musings on body image in this post.

Jezebel - Abortion: His Grief, Your Problem - The latest ploy to make it OK for the government to legislate women’s bodies.

Junkbuzzed- The Fleshlight Follies - The most in-depth, creative and hilariously funny sex toy review I’ve ever read. Be sure to also read part two, three, four, four and a half, and the finale.

HNT- X’s and Oohs

Modeling my purty new stockings. Happy HNT everyone.

Ten Things I Find Extremely Sexy On Men - The Non Physical Version

I’m sure by now you’ve seen this Craigslist personal ad.

It got me to thinking about what it is I want in a man. Now, I can never seem to want a particular man for long, but in general the following (in no particular order) seem to consistently tickle my fancy.

Note that I’m leaving physical attributes out of this because I tend to me attracted to a range of physical types and also looks only really go so far as in the case of Mr. Hotstuff. But if you’re dying to know what gets me going physically then refer to this by no means exhaustive list.

1. Sense of humor - A must. I don’t trust those who take themselves or life too seriously. And I love to laugh. Laughing is right up there with fucking and eating for me and can be a potent aphrodisiac.

2. A sense of adventure - I live in fear of becoming stuck in my own rut. I’m not about to become stuck in someone else’s. Any potential partner of mine must be willing to step out of his comfort zone and try new things, both sexually and otherwise.

3. An inclination toward the geeky - Is a huge plus. I’m rarely more turned on than after I’ve had an extensive conversation with a cute guy about comics and geek culture icons. Can you discuss the origins of the X-Men at length? Have an opinion on Wolverine getting his memories back? Excited for the movie version of Alan Moore’s Watchmen? Think Ed Norton made a better Hulk than Eric Bana? Own every single issue of Exterminators? Call me. We can watch Boondock Saints and play video games.
4. Self confidence - Almost to the point of being cocky but still just toeing the line. Confidence makes my panties wet. There are few things more annoying that a man (or any person for that matter) who isn’t sure of himself/can’t think for himself.

5. The ability to listen - And I mean really listen, not just hearing or pretending to listen. Few people know what it really means to be fully present to another human being and what a tremendously loving gift that can be. Sadly, most people are way more interested in talking than listening.

6. Non-judgment - Nothing turns me off faster than a critical, judgmental person, male or female. Vive y deja vivir!

7. Intelligence - This includes being generally well read, quick-witted and a good conversationalist. Basically, if you say “huh” every time I use a word that’s contains more than three syllables, I’m going to start to reassess things.

8. Self awareness and substance - I’ve concluded that consistency is a lot to ask from a human being these days. However, being aware is not. Know thyself. I don’t want to have to tell you who you are. You tell me.

9.  A dirty mind - Or at least the willingness to step into mine.

10. Passion - I was going to say creativity but as long as he stands for something and is not just wandering complacently through life, it’s a good thing.

Another Good Reason To Wrap It Up

collecting the best images and video that promote safe sex

The images in the posters below are strong and visceral and certainly get the point across in a very visual way.

I hate insects.

HNT- Cuffed

Speaks for itself…

HHNT everybody!