My sister was musing the other day on the whole bros-before-hos and chicks-before-dicks conundrum. She was saying that friends are not necessarily more reliable than lovers.

And this is true.

I had a great friend back in high school. Immediately after meeting, we connected on all these super-absurd levels.

We remained good friends through college and afterward.

After a while, we were hanging out and speaking less often, our lives had become so
busy.

But when we did reconnect it was always just like old times.

I’m not sure what I did but she hasn’t returned my phone calls for months.

I was racking my brain for some transgression, some slight I’d committed unwittingly.

Did I owe her money (possible but unlikely)?

Had I flirted with a guy she liked (certainly not)?

Did I forget to call her on her birthday (ok I’m guilty of this one but all who really know me know not to take this personally)?

Had I let too much time lapse between phone calls (probably guilty of that one as well)?

But she ended our friendship without even discussing it with me; something you almost expect from a man but never from your best girlfriend.

I still call and leave a message every now and then, to ask how she is and to let her know I still think about her.

But I know she won’t call back.

And yeah it sucks.

With a man you can in many cases easily get over him by dating/sleeping with someone else (or so we love to tell ourselves).

A girlfriend however, a good girlfriend, is not so easily replaced.