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e[lust] #8

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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

This Isn’t Play. . . BDSM and Rape – The very basic principle that we hold so dear in BDSM play, “Nothing without consent” seems to stand in stark contrast to a very common form of play, “Rape Play”.

Half-Full – When I get my ass beaten, is it as much for the sensation as it is for the “Good girl…I knew you could take that for me.” that I want so badly at the close of the scene?

House Party Part 2 -His wife walked by at one point and he cryptically asked her to “do what she did to so-and-so earlier”. His wife disappeared behind me, but I felt her hands touching me and his cock as it entered me.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Backseat Orgasms - We kissed lightly and without focus, both a sensual act and maddening at the same time. More, I needed more. In a blur I was on my knees on the seat, straddling his leg, his mouth latched onto one nipple and his fingers hunting for the key to undoing my dress pants.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Are You Watching Me? – A plan of devious proportions begins to form. Before this is over with, I will have forced you into a corner…forced you to act…forced you to give ME what I want.

See also: Pleasurists #64 and 65 for all your sex toy review needs.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Erotic Writing

A story of FL
Contemplation
Cuddling
Floor Exercises
Good day for a milking
Goodbye
G-Spot Orgasms Galore – Part 2
Initiation
Logan
Mark. Confession #423
Mouth
Nothing says I love you quite like…
Playful and Dangerous
Play your part
Plotter
Splish Splash
The Library Hotel
The Secret I Couldn’t Keep
Triple X
Three A.M. Surprise

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Anatomy of Desire (PT. Two)
Better Cautious Than Raped
Lingerie Tales Vol 1 An Obsession Begins
My life as a gamer’s slave
Perplexed
Saturday Texting
So Simple
The Elusive Female Orgasm
The G Spot Mouse or How To Make A Woman Squirt
Transtastic: On Language

Kink & Fetish

A No Limits Slave?
Are Discipline and Punishment The Same?
BDSM Advice Series: Pet Play
Bondage 101—Part 1: Bondage Basics
Breaking the Demons
Dark/DirtyBlog Crush
Factory Doll
Hand vs. toys
I’m on a book cover: ‘The Punishment List’ by Abel
Kink
Men as sex objects
Rough Porn
Raleigh and La Fortress
Savouring the texture of my skin with his teeth
The Way They Look At Me
The Slut Chronicles #13 ~ The Auction
Whither the spankosphere?

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Happy Valentines Day!
Hookers, Catholic School Students and Facebook
Lane Bryant Makes Puppies and Kittens Cry
Pussy Cosmetics and Vagina Myths

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(This week’s Absolute Favorite HNT is brought to you by Bad Bad Girl

. Love the knee socks!) The Wizard of Oz buy

Heart Full of Black: The Doctor – I love this, honest, non-pretending account of the factors that lead up to Wendy’s decision.

And lets throw some super honesty in. I’m excited about being able to wear high heels again. (I haven’t been able to wear them for the past 60lbs or so. I’m too off balance with weak ankles. They don’t hold me up.) It will be nice to be able to borrow clothes from my mother again. It’ll be great that my boobs might go down a bit (I know they’re only large B’s, but I liked them when they were A’s!). I’d really like to not knock stuff over with my butt. I think these are fair and valid feelings. But they still don’t take away from the fact that I am unhealthy and need help.

Sex In The Public Square: First They Came for the Street Workers – Elizabeth brings up a good point about the slippery slope.

If we don’t stand up for each other, all of us who engage in sexual expression that is stigmatized or criminalized, all of us who engage in sexual exchange outside of socially-sanctioned relationships, we are, all of us, sunk.

Writing Dirty: Wet Spots

• Anastasia: The Mystery of Anna video

– Um…whoa!

At first it is a train of clear water down her thigh and then it squirts like a little torrent. Her body is so overcome she is bucking like a animal trying to escape a trap. It goes on and on until it seems like almost too long, like something is wrong but then suddenly she is still except for her trembling legs.

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(this week’s Absolute Favorite HNT pic is brought to you by Diana)

Smut And Steff: Don’t Mind Her; It’s Just Hormones – Steff brings up an excellent point in this post. Not many think about how difficult it is at times for a woman to understand her own hormones and make sense of her moods.

Maybe, just maybe, if more men stopped trying to understand periods and women’s hormones, and just started realizing that it pisses us off and baffles us too, and just cut us a little slack when these phases transpire, life would be simpler for both of us.

The Frisky: Seven Realities of Shacking Up – My thoughts on this subject have been well documented.

You might figure shacking up kills two birds with one stone:

1. It’s a brilliant way of proving you are serious about making a commitment without having to fork out a Donald Trump-sized fortune for a diamond ring.
2. You can literally save bundles sharing the rent, food and utilities. Plus you will have sex on tap and a personal chef.

Of course you know you’re going to have to be a bit more considerate and share your prized possessions, but are you really ready for the realities of shacking up with your girlfriend?

Jezebel: 75 Books Every Woman Should Read: The Complete List – Some great classic reads on this list. This should keep me busy for quite some time to come.

A few notes on the compendium of 75 that you helped us compile below. As we said in the original post, most of the extant rosters of must-read classics are full of old white dudes. So our list is going to be mostly women.

Scanner: The 99 Most Degrading Sex Acts – Not sure if this is amusing or disturbing. Probably some combination of both. Is it sick if I actually want to try some of these?

You’ve heard of The stranger, teabagging, and and The Dirty Sanchez.

But what about the Western Grip (“When jerking off, turn your hand around, so that your thumb is facing towards you. It is the same grip that rodeo folks use; hence, western.”) or the Split Pissonality (“When you’re taking a leak and you get two streams out of the one hole!”)?

Feministe: Shall We Talk About Privilege – Wow. Beautifully written and not afraid to ask the tough questions.

Owning privilege is not about feeling ashamed, it is about acknowledging the benefits that one receives without having to work for them.  It is about realizing that people born to different circumstances will not receive these benefits as a consequence of our skewed understanding of worth and value.  It is further about realizing that no matter how many good and charitable works I perform, my body will always exist with privilege.  No matter how often I donate my time to food banks or homeless shelters, I cannot undo the class privilege into which I was born.

Open Source Sex: Feeling Blue And Dreaming – Absolutely gorgeous images.

A couple days ago I was feeling especially low and wanted to slip away into dreams forever, so I took some self-portraits with my Ocean.

Shoot the Projectionist: Recuperating Frankenstein’s Creature as a Drag Icon – Brilliant post. I am always happy when my sex nerd side and movie geek side get to interact so deliciously.

Frankenstein made his creature out of disparate parts, and so it contains within its physique multiple identities. It was then assigned a gender, though it was provided no corresponding partner, no completion to the binary implied by the designation of Frankenstein’s Creature as a ‘he.’ Perhaps these attributes suggest a more appropriate comparison with transgender or transsexual individuals. I don’t reject the potency of this metaphor; however, it is the performativity of the Creature’s identity assumption that holds the greater interest for me, and leads me to situate him within the same cultural space as the drag queen.

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FUNKYBROWNCHICK – How to Love a Submissive Man – ‘Cuz I sure loves me some!

Beautiful and Depraved – Sasha Grey on the Beauty of Blow Jobs – Unabashed and unapologetic

Newsweek – It’s Hotter Away From Home – I’m about due for a vacation.

Huffington Post – Why Housework Will Get You Some – I can attest to this.

Tango – How to Be a Better Kisser – I totally agree with the notion that kissing can be more intimate than sex. I reserve kissing for the extra special.

Jezebel – Unicorns, Easy-Bake Ovens, and Vibrators, Or: I Believe In The Radical Possibilities Of Pleasure – Of for the days of my Easy-Bake Oven. What ever happened to that thing? Anyway, I agree wholeheartedlt that there are many things that don’t suck about being a woman.

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Jezebel – Toby Young: Sex and the City Depicts An “Essentially Pre-Feminist Society” – Good insight here. I, for one, was too busy studying Carrie’s outfits to notice.

Synecdochic- Don’t Be That Guy – Heartfelt thanks goes out to Synecdochic for so clearly defining “that guy”. Makes you realize there are way too many of them out there.

Man and Wife – Episode 70: Ladies Night Labor Pains movie download

– The girls are talkin’!

Best Sex Writing – Interviews about Sex 2.0 -  Hope to see more of these

Jezebel- ANTM: And the Plus-Size Girl Takes the Cake – I’m not a small chick and so I feel Whitney’s victory is a victory for all the not small chicks out there. But really…this is what’s called “plus sized”?

Urban Gypsy – Desire -  Sound advice dispensed here.

Pretty dumb things – Foot in Mouth -  Reminded me of my foot fetish modeling days.
Special Dead movie full

LUSTY LADY – Dear Writing, a love/hate letter -  Writing and I are in a good place in our relationship right now but it wasn’t always that way. As the Lusty Lady can tell you, he’s a fickle friend.

BOINKOLOGY – The Lady Is A Tramp – I laughed out loud.

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Bad Bad Girl – Tied Up and Twisted- HNT: My fave pic of the week. Too hot for words.

Pretty Dumb Things – On Being Fingered With Rings: Definitely not what it sounds like. I really identified with this one having been “the other woman” more times than I care to admit.

Curvaceous Dee – Raunchy Review: The Spider Garden: I love comics and graphic novels. Have since I was a little girl. I’ve only recently gotten into the erotic comics thing. After reading this, I decided to check this book out.

Jezebel – The Sexist Business of Sex Writing – After reading this, I hand my hand in the air wanting to testify like an old Caribbean woman at church. I think we’ve all been here and this post articulates the frustration we feel at times to a tee.

Feministe – Food Is A Feminist Issue – I’m a foodie and I work in the industry and so most days my job is fun. But I also get to see first hand what’s happening and not just in America as the price of food continues to rise and that’s not so pleasant.

Babeland – Sex and My Mom – Because Mother’s Day is Sunday. And because I’m still waiting for “the talk” myself.

Always Aroused Girl – It All Adds Up – Kudos to AAG. I wished I had learned at an early age how to communicate my boundaries and desires.

Link Lovin' – Things I've Read and Loved This Week

Lots of commentary on race matters this week.

Happen2bBlack – Are Those Who Only Date Outside Their Race Racist – Some very provocative thoughts here. Conversation that needs to be had.

FUNKYBROWNCHICK – Interracial Dating: The Brown Chick Who Sometimes Dates White Dudes Bandidas rip – I for one am all for the swirl!

LUSTY LADY – White people and racism – The Lusty Lady weighs in on the whole Seal Press controversy

And other things…

FUNKYBROWNCHICK – How I Date Safely Online – Critical information for those of you who’d rather not end up an after school special statistic.

Smut and Steff – Putting the “Play” Back into Playing with Yourself BloodRayne – Great advice here. Masturbation doesn’t have to be a wham bam thank you mam affair.

Heart Full of Black – Gross Spelling Errors Turn Me Off – The Grammar Nazi in me really identified with this one.

Sexual-Eccenricity – The Rude Boy Review – The visual I got while reading this made me want to play with myself.

Urban Gypsy – The Therapy Diaries Joint Session No. One – An inspiring read about a married couple trying to work things out and stay together.

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Babeland: Design Your Own STD Prevention Underwear – Because loves do need instructions and safe sex is important. But the best prat about this post is the cute video. And who doesn’t love a contest?

Urban Gypsy: Adventures in Dermablend Vicky Cristina Barcelona rip – From one busty chick to another. The story is funny and the pics are great.

Sex in the Public Square: The Sex Commons Wiki – I think it’s a wonderful idea.

Naked City: Porn for Women, Please – A great article for women who are into porn but underwhelmed by their current options.

Boinkology: What Makes a “Promiscuous” Girl – The word “slut” traditionally has very negative connotations. Some choose to redefine the word for themselves. Lots of lively discussion going on here.

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(this week’s Absolute Favorite HNT pic is brought to you by Jobthingy)

Gloria’s Oversexed Mind – Discomgoogolated Sex Addicts – There are many who poo poo the term sex addict.  I, for one, have never thought to dissect the phrase from such a scientific standpoint. An interesting and entertaining read.

Feministe – Requiring Gardasil for U.S. Immigrants – Two words. Slippery slope.

Junkbuzzed – Things To Do When Your Girlfriend Or Significant Other Has A Broken Judy – I get wet reading this blog.

Feministing – Burning Man 2008: The American Dream

Drag Me to Hell video

– Never been to burning man. I’ve always been intrigued by it but know myself well enough to know that roughing it in the dessert doesn’t rank too high on my list. I especially liked the musings on body image in this post.

Jezebel – Abortion: His Grief, Your Problem – The latest ploy to make it OK for the government to legislate women’s bodies.

Junkbuzzed- The Fleshlight Follies – The most in-depth, creative and hilariously funny sex toy review I’ve ever read. Be sure to also read part two, three The Last Word , four, four and a half

Blue Streak film

, and the finale.

Link Lovin'

Stacey Lawson on Huffington Post – Love The One You’re With – Profound because way too many people refuse to see their lovers for who they are.

US News – Can You Afford a Baby? – I don’t know whether this is resourceful or ridiculous.

NY Times – Media Charged With Sexism in Clinton Coverage – Of COURSE the media coverage was sexist.

LUSTY LADY – Video Interview about Erotica and Dirty Girls – RKB is so frickin’ cute.
Minotaur rip

Jezebel – An Open Letter to Those Awaiting the Rapture – I can laugh about this now but when I was younger, my grandma had me sacred shitless with stories of the Rapture. Who knows? She might have the last laugh after all…in an email.

NY Times – What Women Want (Maybe) – We like what we like. No need for labels. Still, an interesting read.

Heart Full of Black – HNT Josie’s Room – Oh! The purple panties!

Wired – Tech Helps Soldiers with Invisible Wounds of War – As if we needed another reason to bring the troops home.