I know I’ve been a little scare ’round these parts lately. Lot’s going on. Working on a book proposal, busy month at work, new lover etc. (will definitely be writing much about the new lover soon).

But I’m back. And for those of you in the area, or coming to the area, remember there’s a big party this Friday.

You simply must come dahling. Everyone’s going to be there!

There’ll be some good naughty swag for out first 100 guests and the chance to win more. Check the blog for the latest list of raffle prizes.

Here’s the trailer video:

Launch party this Friday, November 14 6:30 to 9:30 @ The White Rabbit, 145 East Houston St.

Apparently there’s this new meme thingy going around. And I guess it’s my turn because I got tagged by that sexy muthafucka, Jack.

Here are the commandments:

-Thou shalt link to your tagger and list these rules on your blog.

-Thou shalt share 7 facts about yourself on your blog - some random, some weird.

-Thou shalt tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blog.

-And let them know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

And without further ado…

1. My absolute favorite food in the whole wide world would have to be eggs. I can and often do eat eggs in some form every day (really, it’s a wonder I have normal cholesterol levels). i consider making someone eggs the morning after one of the highest expressions of affection. I’m working on several cookbooks right now and one of the contains solely egg recipes.

2. I am of Caribbean decent. My mommy’s side of the family is from Barbados and my daddy’s side is from Jamaica. I lived in Jamaica for a little over a year, and like many I’m a first generation American. My accent only comes out if I’m pissed (a rarity since I’m slow to anger) and I really only speak Patois around family. I find the majority of people’s impressions of the Jamaican accent to be severely annoying.

3. I have a thing for knives. I pretty much always carry at least one, and I’ve got a little collection that I plan to display on my wall (once I obtain a sword that is). I know this will seemingly contradict what I said earlier about being slow to anger, but I’m what you’d call a “stabby” person. No, I don’t get angry easily. But when I do, you’d better make sure there are no sharp edges around. Ask my ex fiancee. He’ll tell you…

4. I am an ass woman (that sounds funny). You know how you always see guys on the street turn around and look at the asses of the women who walk by them? Well, that’s me. I can’t help it. I enjoy staring at women’s asses. If you’re a chick and you know me, I’ve likely checked out your butt.

5. People are actually surprised to learn that I’m kind of a nerd (it’s the tits..society conditions us to think boobs and brains don’t go together). I’m a trivia junkie and read about sixty books a year. I’m also a grammar Nazi. I’m the one everyone calls when they want the definition of something or they want something spelled properly.

6. My love of comic books has been well documented, but unless you’ve visited my apartment you probably don’t know that I also collect figurines and toys. My collection is almost complete. I’m searching for the perfect Wolverine bust, a Yoda bust and an official Star Wars light saber. Then I’ll be satisfied. I think.

I’m a geek as well (yes, there’s a difference but that would take a whole post of it’s own to explain).

7. I love to drink scotch. A nicely aged single malt served neat… no ice, no water.

OK here’s the tag part. I tag:

Tess - the only woman on the internet with cleavage comparable to mine

Twanna - the coolest, funkiest brown chick I know

Tammy - aka Pinkie aka my little sister. She’s not a sex blogger (she’s way too good for that, unlike her older sister) but is equally awesome in her own right.

The Fury - Because I get moist whenever there’s something new from him in my feed reader

Os - because he’s awesome and I want to know more about him

Bad Bad Girl - my new girl crush

Mollena - my other new girl crush

The second behind the scenes video will be released a week before our launch party.

You ARE coming right? Because I hear if you purchase your calendar at the party, you get to spank a certain Lusty Lady.

So here’s the video. Huge thanks to Dacia for filming this.

…or is it?

This video got me thinking.

I’m all about safe sex.

I also LOVE to give head.

The thought of sucking on a condom, however, is not appealing at all (side note: While more than capable of doing so, I usually do not fellate my partner to completion so the spit or swallow dilemma is one I don’t really face..this is for my own selfish reasons of course…I find that most men are useless once you’ve gotten them off with your mouth and so I don’t get them off orally in the interest of keeping the ball rolling so to speak).

I’m interested to here your thoughts on the matter. Weigh in in the comments or take part in my poll.

(This week’s Absolute Favorite HNT is brought to you by Bad Bad Girl. Love the knee socks!)

Heart Full of Black: The Doctor - I love this, honest, non-pretending account of the factors that lead up to Wendy’s decision.

And lets throw some super honesty in. I’m excited about being able to wear high heels again. (I haven’t been able to wear them for the past 60lbs or so. I’m too off balance with weak ankles. They don’t hold me up.) It will be nice to be able to borrow clothes from my mother again. It’ll be great that my boobs might go down a bit (I know they’re only large B’s, but I liked them when they were A’s!). I’d really like to not knock stuff over with my butt. I think these are fair and valid feelings. But they still don’t take away from the fact that I am unhealthy and need help.

Sex In The Public Square: First They Came for the Street Workers - Elizabeth brings up a good point about the slippery slope.

If we don’t stand up for each other, all of us who engage in sexual expression that is stigmatized or criminalized, all of us who engage in sexual exchange outside of socially-sanctioned relationships, we are, all of us, sunk.

Writing Dirty: Wet Spots - Um…whoa!

At first it is a train of clear water down her thigh and then it squirts like a little torrent. Her body is so overcome she is bucking like a animal trying to escape a trap. It goes on and on until it seems like almost too long, like something is wrong but then suddenly she is still except for her trembling legs.

Lately, all I want to do is hibernate…

HHNT everyone!

In the latest pinup news…

Have you ordered your calendar yet? We’ll be raffling off a super cool OhMiBod every day from now until Saturday so get yours while the getting’s good. Yes that’s right. Buy a calendar and you’re automatically entered to win an awesome free sex toy (as if staring at us lovely ladies all year round wasn’t incentive enough).

If you don’t win, don’t fret. You can get some swag at our launch party. We are bringing this calendar to you in style, folks. We don’t fuck around. There’ll be burlesque dancers, Babeland goodie bags, a cake resembling some part of the female anatomy. Seriously, you need to be there. You can find the details here.

And lastly here’s a sneak peek to reward you all for being so very patient.

Photo by the ever fabulous Stacie Joy

Image via Wikipedia

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #151? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Stolen Time
“The sigh of a kiss that has been too long waiting is a wicked rush.”

Keeping things hot when everything hurts
“While it’s not as fun for him, what I love about those times is how sexy he makes me feel at a time when I probably feel the most worthless as a lover.”

Like lovers do…
“As soon as I got that groove, he felt it. His body started to tense up and tremble.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
At What Point Have You Crossed The Line?

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
Catalina loves Sgt. Major from Backdoor Bondage and Kink.com
Click Foreplay
The End of the Sex Writer?
Lust Objectified: Lelo’s Lily Vibe
Sex News Roundup

Sex Work
20 Questions With Janet Jacme
Busy Busy Busy

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Backward (One)
The Five Twenties - The Fifth Twenty
i Kissed a Girl
The love for guys in uniform
Natalie Gets Laid
A Night to Remember, ft. Mariella and VibeReview
Talk Dirty To Me
Will you suck it?
Your Gorgeous Polish Girlfriend Won’t Pose Just How You Imagined

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Boymeat’s Boots
HNT: Lucky Heather 2
Kelly Zhang (Met Art)
Radka - OJ

Sex & Politics
Do BDSM and McCain Go Together Like Vinegar and Oil?
Invasion

BDSM & Fetish
3 days
Punished in the school gym
Sex Camp 2008: The Petting Zoo!
slut to the Mailbox ….. This Morning’s Task as Accomplished
Someplace I’ve never been, part 2

Sex Advice
Man-Handles: What to Do with His Nipples?
Sadie’s Advice for Craigslist Dating. Confession #151

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Can Group Sex Get Your Man to Clean the House?
Channeling Jessica Rabbit
How I started paying for sex
Present Genitive
Seven Daily Sins: Lust
Trust

I wrote in my previous post about how much I love The Big Penis Book (there is a companion volume called The Big Book of Breasts…it’s next on my list).

HHNT everyone!

Finally, I’ve found mine.

I was perusing my local Borders, the sexuality section of course, when I saw it.

It was monstrous.

It was heavy.

It was a big, thick cock.

On the cover of a big thick book. The Big Penis book to be precise.

I opened it up never giving thought to the possibility that people watching me flip through a book littered with pictures of big cocks might raise some eyebrows. I salivated over page after page of wondrous penises. Long, thick, coming in many wonderful colors and attached to a plethora of beautiful men.

This book is a cock lover’s dream.

In addition to the stunning photography there is also lots of interesting research (yes, I read the words too) on the history of the penis, the large one in particular, and its representations in pop culture throughout history.

Words cannot express how much I love this book. I love to flip through the pages and wonder if any of the men I know have dicks this beautiful. I love to thumb through it and wonder where they found these models. I love to come across a particular page and think to myself “Damn, is that thing even real?”

Now, seeing as how I don’t actually own a coffee table, my Big Penis Book rests prominently on my couch.

On Saturday, my grandmother (I’ve written about her, the one who thinks I’m going to hell in a hand basket) dropped in unannounced. She woke me up so I didn’t have time to prepare. I let her in and she plopped onto the couch right next to the 10 inch beauty on the cover.

Suddenly, I was having flashbacks to the time she found my box of dildos under my old bed after I’d moved out.

She glanced toward the general direction of the cock but didn’t say anything.  We were both content to pretend it wasn’t there.

Moral: don’t buy this book unless you plan to put your new photographic cock collection proudly on display.

As a side note, I’d like to say that I am not a size queen. Yes, I love a big dick as much as the next gal but I’ve had completely satisfying sex with average sized penises and even those on the smaller side.

Oh and because I’m a black woman, l feel obligated to debunk the myth of the black man’s sexual prowess right now. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my world rocked by more than my fair share of black men (hi Lorenzo) but my toes have curled and my walls have stretched for black and white (hi Matt) men alike, and everyone in between for that matter (really, as long as you’re working with the right equipment, I’m not particular about what color that equipment is, even if it’s purple and made of plastic).

I digress.

Buy this book.