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Smut And Steff: Don’t Mind Her; It’s Just Hormones – Steff brings up an excellent point in this post. Not many think about how difficult it is at times for a woman to understand her own hormones and make sense of her moods.

Maybe, just maybe, if more men stopped trying to understand periods and women’s hormones, and just started realizing that it pisses us off and baffles us too, and just cut us a little slack when these phases transpire, life would be simpler for both of us.

The Frisky: Seven Realities of Shacking Up – My thoughts on this subject have been well documented.

You might figure shacking up kills two birds with one stone:

1. It’s a brilliant way of proving you are serious about making a commitment without having to fork out a Donald Trump-sized fortune for a diamond ring.
2. You can literally save bundles sharing the rent, food and utilities. Plus you will have sex on tap and a personal chef.

Of course you know you’re going to have to be a bit more considerate and share your prized possessions, but are you really ready for the realities of shacking up with your girlfriend?

Jezebel: 75 Books Every Woman Should Read: The Complete List – Some great classic reads on this list. This should keep me busy for quite some time to come.

A few notes on the compendium of 75 that you helped us compile below. As we said in the original post, most of the extant rosters of must-read classics are full of old white dudes. So our list is going to be mostly women.

Scanner: The 99 Most Degrading Sex Acts – Not sure if this is amusing or disturbing. Probably some combination of both. Is it sick if I actually want to try some of these?

You’ve heard of The stranger, teabagging, and and The Dirty Sanchez.

But what about the Western Grip (“When jerking off, turn your hand around, so that your thumb is facing towards you. It is the same grip that rodeo folks use; hence, western.”) or the Split Pissonality (“When you’re taking a leak and you get two streams out of the one hole!”)?

Feministe: Shall We Talk About Privilege – Wow. Beautifully written and not afraid to ask the tough questions.

Owning privilege is not about feeling ashamed, it is about acknowledging the benefits that one receives without having to work for them.  It is about realizing that people born to different circumstances will not receive these benefits as a consequence of our skewed understanding of worth and value.  It is further about realizing that no matter how many good and charitable works I perform, my body will always exist with privilege.  No matter how often I donate my time to food banks or homeless shelters, I cannot undo the class privilege into which I was born.

Open Source Sex: Feeling Blue And Dreaming – Absolutely gorgeous images.

A couple days ago I was feeling especially low and wanted to slip away into dreams forever, so I took some self-portraits with my Ocean.

Shoot the Projectionist: Recuperating Frankenstein’s Creature as a Drag Icon – Brilliant post. I am always happy when my sex nerd side and movie geek side get to interact so deliciously.

Frankenstein made his creature out of disparate parts, and so it contains within its physique multiple identities. It was then assigned a gender, though it was provided no corresponding partner, no completion to the binary implied by the designation of Frankenstein’s Creature as a ‘he.’ Perhaps these attributes suggest a more appropriate comparison with transgender or transsexual individuals. I don’t reject the potency of this metaphor; however, it is the performativity of the Creature’s identity assumption that holds the greater interest for me, and leads me to situate him within the same cultural space as the drag queen.