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Another Good Reason to Wrap It Up

This video about a man’s struggles with a rare type pf HPV (found on Gloria Brame’s awesome blog) is one of the scariest things I’ve seen.

I was so horrified watching this that I almost wish it were a hoax.

Moral – you can never be too careful.

Credo release

Performance Pressure

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I was beginning to worry that he was one of those guys that just couldn’t get off unless I was constantly saying filthy things to him.

It’s not that I’m against the whole potty mouthed slut routine. It’s just that I have trouble doing it on command.

Instead of concentrating on the feeling of the cock and the fucking, I’m now racking my brain for clever and dirty things to say.

People expect writers to automatically be great communicators. But just because one can express herself well in written form doesn’t mean she has the same success or ease when it comes to verbal communication (I even contemplated writing out a script and then reciting it while in bed…figured later that it wouldn’t be a good idea).

I’d like to be more vocal during sex because I know my partner really likes it but the talking has to come about organically. Hearing constant commands to “talk dirty to me” or “tell me how much you love this cock” etc. only gives me a weird anxiety.

Wait, you mean you want me to fuck your brains out and

give you play by play?

Too bad noises don’t count. If they did, I’d score highly since I’ve been known to get really loud.

Plus, I kinda find the whole thing distracting. A little dirty talk here and there is great and I have no problems saying wonderfully dirty things before and after the act but carrying on the equivalent of a full filthy conversation is totally different. It takes my mind away from what’s going on and I can’t be fully present in the sex itself. I need my mind in order to get off.

This is why I sucked at/hated working the phones.

I was good at phone sex and enjoyed it immensely in my personal experience.

After my ex fiancee and I had broken up for like the millionth time, I was in somewhat of a bad way. I was working full time and going to school full time and struggling to pay everything by myself.  Professional phone sex seemed like an attractive option at the time. I could do it from home and make the extra money I needed.

But I hated just about every minute I spent working the phones. The constant performance pressure was too much for me. And then factor in that for me, like many people, the enjoyment of an activity fades once you have to do it and get paid for it.

I quit the phone as soon as I could.

So yes, I like to talk dirty.

But I guess once I have to it’s just not fun anymore.

Another Good Reason To Wrap It Up?

(collecting th best images and video that promote safe sex)

The Exorcism of Emily Rose movie

L.A. Confidential movie download

…or is it?

This video got me thinking.

I’m all about safe sex.

I also LOVE to give head.

The thought of sucking on a condom, however, is not appealing at all (side note: While more than capable of doing so, I usually do not fellate my partner to completion so the spit or swallow dilemma is one I don’t really face..this is for my own selfish reasons of course…I find that most men are useless once you’ve gotten them off with your mouth and so I don’t get them off orally in the interest of keeping the ball rolling so to speak).

I’m interested to here your thoughts on the matter. Weigh in in the comments or take part in my poll.

Sorry, there are no polls available at the moment.

Link Lovin'

(This week’s Absolute Favorite HNT is brought to you by Bad Bad Girl

. Love the knee socks!) The Wizard of Oz buy

Heart Full of Black: The Doctor – I love this, honest, non-pretending account of the factors that lead up to Wendy’s decision.

And lets throw some super honesty in. I’m excited about being able to wear high heels again. (I haven’t been able to wear them for the past 60lbs or so. I’m too off balance with weak ankles. They don’t hold me up.) It will be nice to be able to borrow clothes from my mother again. It’ll be great that my boobs might go down a bit (I know they’re only large B’s, but I liked them when they were A’s!). I’d really like to not knock stuff over with my butt. I think these are fair and valid feelings. But they still don’t take away from the fact that I am unhealthy and need help.

Sex In The Public Square: First They Came for the Street Workers – Elizabeth brings up a good point about the slippery slope.

If we don’t stand up for each other, all of us who engage in sexual expression that is stigmatized or criminalized, all of us who engage in sexual exchange outside of socially-sanctioned relationships, we are, all of us, sunk.

Writing Dirty: Wet Spots

• Anastasia: The Mystery of Anna video

– Um…whoa!

At first it is a train of clear water down her thigh and then it squirts like a little torrent. Her body is so overcome she is bucking like a animal trying to escape a trap. It goes on and on until it seems like almost too long, like something is wrong but then suddenly she is still except for her trembling legs.

HNT – Sleepy

Lately, all I want to do is hibernate…

HHNT everyone!

Cinderella Man the movie

Party With The Pinups

In the latest pinup news…

Have you ordered your calendar yet 3000 Miles to Graceland film

Road Trip: Beer Pong movies

Grim Reaper hd ? We’ll be raffling off a super cool OhMiBod every day from now until Saturday so get yours while the getting’s good. Yes that’s right. Buy a calendar and you’re automatically entered to win an awesome free sex toy (as if staring at us lovely ladies all year round wasn’t incentive enough).

If you don’t win, don’t fret. You can get some swag at our launch party. We are bringing this calendar to you in style, folks. We don’t fuck around. There’ll be burlesque dancers, Babeland goodie bags, a cake resembling some part of the female anatomy. Seriously, you need to be there. You can find the details here.

And lastly here’s a sneak peek to reward you all for being so very patient.

Photo by the ever fabulous Stacie Joy

Sugasm #150

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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #151? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Stolen Time
“The sigh of a kiss that has been too long waiting is a wicked rush.”

Keeping things hot when everything hurts
“While it’s not as fun for him, what I love about those times is how sexy he makes me feel at a time when I probably feel the most worthless as a lover.”

Like lovers do…
“As soon as I got that groove, he felt it. His body started to tense up and tremble.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
At What Point Have You Crossed The Line?

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday Supercross hd .

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
Catalina loves Sgt. Major from Backdoor Bondage and Kink.com
Click Foreplay
The End of the Sex Writer?
Lust Objectified: Lelo’s Lily Vibe
Sex News Roundup

Sex Work

20 Questions With Janet Jacme
Busy Busy Busy

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Backward (One)

The Five Twenties – The Fifth Twenty
i Kissed a Girl
The love for guys in uniform
Natalie Gets Laid
A Night to Remember, ft. Mariella and VibeReview
Talk Dirty To Me
Will you suck it?
Your Gorgeous Polish Girlfriend Won’t Pose Just How You Imagined

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Boymeat’s Boots
HNT: Lucky Heather 2
Kelly Zhang (Met Art)
Radka – OJ

Sex & Politics
Do BDSM and McCain Go Together Like Vinegar and Oil?
Invasion

BDSM & Fetish
3 days
Punished in the school gym
Sex Camp 2008: The Petting Zoo!
slut to the Mailbox ….. This Morning’s Task as Accomplished Funny Games U.S.
Someplace I’ve never been, part 2

Sex Advice
Man-Handles: What to Do with His Nipples? The Road to Guantanamo trailer

Sadie’s Advice for Craigslist Dating. Confession #151

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Can Group Sex Get Your Man to Clean the House?
Channeling Jessica Rabbit
How I started paying for sex
Present Genitive
Seven Daily Sins: Lust
Trust

HNT- Bedtime Story

I wrote in my previous post about how much I love The Big Penis Book (there is a companion volume called The Big Book of Breasts…it’s next on my list).

HHNT everyone!How to Steal a Million divx Michael dvd

Close Encounters of the Third Kind hd

12 Angry Men buy

In Pictorial Praise of the Penis

Choosing one’s coffee table book requires much thought. You want it to be entertaining. You want it to be pleasing to the eye. You want it to say something about you and the things you love.

Finally, I’ve found mine.

I was perusing my local Borders, the sexuality section of course, when I saw it.

It was monstrous.

It was heavy.

It was a big, thick cock.

On the cover of a big thick book. The Big Penis book to be precise.

I opened it up never giving thought to the possibility that people watching me flip through a book littered with pictures of big cocks might raise some eyebrows. I salivated over page after page of wondrous penises. Long, thick, coming in many wonderful colors and attached to a plethora of beautiful men.

This book is a cock lover’s dream.

In addition to the stunning photography there is also lots of interesting research (yes, I read the words too) on the history of the penis, the large one in particular, and its representations in pop culture throughout history.

Words cannot express how much I love this book. I love to flip through the pages and wonder if any of the men I know have dicks this beautiful. I love to thumb through it and wonder where they found these models. I love to come across a particular page and think to myself “Damn, is that thing even real ?”

Now, seeing as how I don’t actually own a coffee table, my Big Penis Book rests prominently on my couch.

On Saturday, my grandmother (I’ve written about her, the one who thinks I’m going to hell in a hand basket) dropped in unannounced. She woke me up so I didn’t have time to prepare. I let her in and she plopped onto the couch right next to the 10 inch beauty on the cover.

Suddenly, I was having flashbacks to the time she found my box of dildos under my old bed after I’d moved out.

She glanced toward the general direction of the cock but didn’t say anything.  We were both content to pretend it wasn’t there.

Moral: don’t buy this book unless you plan to put your new photographic cock collection proudly on display.

As a side note, I’d like to say that I am not a size queen. Yes, I love a big dick as much as the next gal but I’ve had completely satisfying sex with average sized penises and even those on the smaller side.

Oh and because I’m a black woman, l feel obligated to debunk the myth of the black man’s sexual prowess right now. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my world rocked by more than my fair share of black men (hi Lorenzo) but my toes have curled and my walls have stretched for black and white (hi Matt) men alike, and everyone in between for that matter (really, as long as you’re working with the right equipment, I’m not particular about what color that equipment is, even if it’s purple and made of plastic).

I digress.

Buy this book.The Exorcism of Emily Rose Ballistic: Ecks vs. Sever What Love Is the movie

The Pagemaster trailer

The World Air Sex Championships

Dakota Skye psp

Dog Tags movies Funny Games U.S. divx

The Falcon and the Snowman movie

I know I’m late with this but it was way too funny not to post.

I’m inspired.