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The Elusive Vaginal Orgasm

I suppose I should consider myself lucky.

I haven’t had a problem having vaginal orgasms.

For as long as I could remember, even with my very first boyfriend, friction between me and a man’s penis was more than enough to make me come.

That’s why it’s hard for me to relate when I read articles that say most women can’t come without some form of clitoral stimulation.

I’m not knocking clitoral stimulation, in fact I’m a huge fan of it.

But there is nothing like the feeling of an orgasm starting to bubble up in your lower abdomen and that feeling getting more and more intense until it just rips through you, leaving you a whimpering, quivering mess.

*sigh*

I’m not trying to gloat or rub it in the faces of women who have trouble in this area. Nor am I trying to oversimplify the matter by giving shallow tips.

Just want to share what’s worked for me so far.
1). I suspect being comfortable with yourself and your sexuality has a lot to do with it. I think it makes sense that if you’re uncomfortable during any given sex act, you won’t come.

2). I know I’ve never had explosive orgsams with a man I wasn’t totally into (or at least I must have an insane physical chemistry with him) and so I make it a point not to have sex unless the man falls into one of the two above categories.

And if he falls into both…watch out now.

Comfort with your partner…big plus.

3). I also read that orgasm get easier for women after she’s come once already. It’s been true in my experience. I find it way easier to have a vaginal orgasm after I’ve had a clitoral one.

4). Move around. When it comes to thrusting, angle is everything.

5). Telling him to speed up doesn’t hurt either.

Incidentally, I’ve never experienced the phenomenon that is squirting (at least not with a man, I’ve squirted by myself once).

Any pointers in that arena?